Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Russia bans adoptions to US

By now, many of you have heard, and possibly been outraged, by Russia's decision to ban adoptions to the United States. Why, might you ask, would they do such a thing? Well, in the adoption circles, the most common response seems to be that this is just part of a political game. This is just one more way for Russia to bite their thumb at the United States.

But nobody has stopped to consider that the big bad Russians could possibly have reasons behind this decision. Nobody stops to look at the problems in the perfect land of the United States, where everything is so much better than it is everywhere else. In fact, Americans are so much better than the Russians (and the Chinese, and the Indians. And the Koreans. And just about anyone else in the world.). We are so much better, that we beat our children, we starve our children, we rape our children, at much higher rates than in other countries around the world. (20,000 killed in the past decade, according to UNICEF  This doesn't include the countless numbers of children wishing for death to come and end their suffering) In fact, the United States is such a wonderful, generous nation, that it's not enough for us to abuse and murder our own children. We need to spread the abuse to other nationalities as well. And how dare those evil Russians for trying to keep their children from us.

Now I do realize that not everybody will abuse their adopted children. But the fact still remains that the gamble just may be too much for the Russian government to take with their children. And anyways, are we so conceited as a nation that we really think that adopting these children from other countries somehow saves them? Are their not Russians, Chinese, Indians, etc, that cannot have children of their own, and would like to adopt? Of course there are. But, I guess if that happened too often, these children wouldn't have the privilege of being raised in the most pompous country on the face of the earth. Being American is so great, that it's worth the abuse, neglect, and murder that these children risk when coming in to an American home.





http://news.discovery.com/human/psychology/us-worst-child-abuse-111023.htm






Sunday, January 13, 2013

It's not my job

It is not my job, and it never was, to provide a baby to an infertile couple. It is not my job, nor is it the job of any other mother or expectant mother. I here some natural mothers saying how they felt that this was "meant to be" so that they could bless some "poor infertile couple." WRONG. I am so sorry these women have been made to feel that because they maybe from a lower financial class, because they are younger, because they aren't wed, that they are somehow less worthy of their child than this ideal, rich, married couple who just can't conceive.

Also, getting pregnant unintentionally was not some "terrible thing that happened to me." I was not some poor victim of some jerk guy. Getting pregnant was no more or less his fault than it was mine. I got pregnant. It's not something happened to me. And it was not terrible. Sure, the timing could have been better, my finances could have been better, but it wasn't a "terrible thing that happened to me" and I will never regret conceiving my daughter.

What I will regret, is allowing myself to be weak and timid. I regret not standing up for myself and believing in myself. I regret letting my fear take hold of me and guide me in to the biggest mistake I've ever made. Now, I am no longer weak and timid. I will tell women that it is not their job to provide babies for infertile couples. I will tell a young, scared, pregnant girl, that she IS worthy of her baby, that she IS her babies mother, and that this pregnancy didn't happen to her so that she can provide for someone else.

That is all.