Interesting that I would blog about these things together. I honestly never thought I would talk about same sex marriage here, but I am. There was an article written, as well as a comment on somebody else's facebook, that you can't support equal rights in marriage if you don't like adoption. The reason being is that naturally, this newly wed gay couple will add to the demand for infant adoption.
See, here's the thing. I am not against adoption. Not as it is meant to be. Adoption is SUPPOSED to be about finding home for children that don't have one, because they are orphans, have been rescued from abuse or neglect, or for some reason just don't have a home to go to. There are THOUSANDS of children in foster care waiting to be adopted, and I feel that a same sex couple should be able to give these children a home the same as a single parent, or heterosexual couple can. Any (safe) home is better than no home at all and being bounced around foster care and group homes.
However, adoption so often becomes about finding CHILDREN for HOMES. A person or couple who cant conceive wants a baby so badly they will pay any price to get it. This is where profit comes in. And when there is money to be made, there are people willing to bend the rules to acquire the product. In this case, it just so happens to be children (sickening, right?) This is where we get coercion. This is when adoption agencies set themselves up as "crisis pregnancy centers" and mind fuck and mentally beat down anyone who walks through their door. This is where adoption agencies assume that just because a pregnant woman is exploring her options, that her baby is already their profit, and they will use every tool they can to make sure she knows she is worthless and is such a horrible human being that her child is better off with strangers than with her. I am AGAINST this kind of adoption for ANYONE: Gay, straight, black, white, you name it. THIS IS WRONG.
I support equal rights in adoption. And I can support same sex marriage and be against the corruption in adoption at the same time. Any argument otherwise is just a red herring.
See, here's the thing. I am not against adoption. Not as it is meant to be. Adoption is SUPPOSED to be about finding home for children that don't have one, because they are orphans, have been rescued from abuse or neglect, or for some reason just don't have a home to go to. There are THOUSANDS of children in foster care waiting to be adopted, and I feel that a same sex couple should be able to give these children a home the same as a single parent, or heterosexual couple can. Any (safe) home is better than no home at all and being bounced around foster care and group homes.
However, adoption so often becomes about finding CHILDREN for HOMES. A person or couple who cant conceive wants a baby so badly they will pay any price to get it. This is where profit comes in. And when there is money to be made, there are people willing to bend the rules to acquire the product. In this case, it just so happens to be children (sickening, right?) This is where we get coercion. This is when adoption agencies set themselves up as "crisis pregnancy centers" and mind fuck and mentally beat down anyone who walks through their door. This is where adoption agencies assume that just because a pregnant woman is exploring her options, that her baby is already their profit, and they will use every tool they can to make sure she knows she is worthless and is such a horrible human being that her child is better off with strangers than with her. I am AGAINST this kind of adoption for ANYONE: Gay, straight, black, white, you name it. THIS IS WRONG.
I support equal rights in adoption. And I can support same sex marriage and be against the corruption in adoption at the same time. Any argument otherwise is just a red herring.
I agree with you that every child deserves a loving home, and that if a child is truly abandoned by her original family then it is better for her to be adopted by a single, a heterosexual couple or a gay couple, than to be tossed around in foster care. However, I do think it is safe to assume that most gay couples will prefer to adopt an infant just as heterosexual couples do. I think gay marriage could increase the demand for adoptable infants and with that comes the coercion, lies, etc. to encourage young vulnerable mothers to relinquish.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree that coercion is wrong. I even said that. But same sex marriage should not stay illegal because some of them may engage in it. By that logic, all marriage should be illegal, becauase most adopters are straight couples.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree that coercion is wrong. I even said that. But same sex marriage should not stay illegal because some of them may engage in it. By that logic, all marriage should be illegal, becauase most adopters are straight couples.
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